Life with EDNOS
1. one day you’re eating 200 calories, and the next day you hit 2000 or more.
2. you feel like you don’t have a “real eating disorder.”
3. you try and tell people about your tortured food feelings, and they look at your healthy BMI and say: “mmm…yeah..well it can’t be that bad can it?”
4. you go through a lot of crap, and still end up the same weight that you were two years ago. (Which, of course, looks healthy and normal).
5. all this agony and you don’t get any validation from it — there’s nothing to SHOW what you’re going through; you don’t even get to be “thin.”
6. you’re an exercise freak but don’t get to see the benefits, because you’re a binger too. And, all those hours feel like a waste sometimes because you don’t have the beautiful body you ought to have.
7. you read these threads on the anorexia and bulimia boards and agree with everything, but still feel like you don’t fit there.
8. on a good day you go out to eat, and are instantly triggered by the girl that orders a side salad with dressing on the side.
9. you hate that no one notices all the shit you go through in your head because your weight hasn’t fluctuated enough to gain attention.
10. you can loose 10 pounds in 2 weeks …. then gain back 12 in a week.
11. one day you fast, and the next day you’re eating a weeks worth of food …. then comes the choice to purge or not to purge. On good days you do, and on bad days you eat more and crawl into bed.
12. you still control the bad food you eat - blotting the grease off pizza, drink diet coke with a “fatty” meal, have low calorie dressing on a fatty sandwich, etc.
13. when you’re really upset and can’t decide whether to restrict or binge.
14. you start every day with the intention of restricting your calories, have nothing until lunch, and then still fit in 2000 calories before bed.
15. you’re embarrased to tell people that you have an ED cause you’re at a “healthy” weight.
16. you try to secretly diagnose everyone you know with an ED.
17. you feel like you’re so fucked up/incompetent/worthless that you can’t do ANYTHING right/normally — not even develop an ED.
18. after a major binge you’re scared to drink water because you’ve gained enough weight already.
19. you feel like a fraud for having nothing to show for all your suffering.
20. you keep telling yourself tomorrow is a new day, and it never is.
21. even if you do try and diet somewhat “normally,” you loose nothing because your metabolism is so screwed from years of this shit.
22. over the last 11 years you have lost a total of 100 pounds, and gained about 90.
23. you starve/restrict all week knowing full well you’re probably going to binge on the weekend.
24. you can’t decide if it’s emptiness or bingeing that you crave the most.
25. you can’t sleep one night because your stomach is growling, and can’t sleep the next night because you’re so pissed at yourself for bingeing.
Well it was short but here's another just because it's god damn true
You know you are EDNOS when..
1. You starve all day, then binge when you get home, purge then eat a normall tea
2. You decline a boiled sweet from a friend because it has 25 calories only to buy 3 chocolate bars at the garage.
3. You fast for a few days, then eat normally for the next few.
4. Knowing that one day can be completely different to the next when it comes to food
5. putting on 5 pounds in 1 week only to loose it all the next week
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you're too fat for help, but not fat enough to be anything other than 'normal'.
When it feels more like a messed up diet than an eating disorder because you don't do anything 'properly'.
When you wish you had a 'real' disorder because then people might take you seriously.
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1. When you restrict restrict restrict until dizziness floods your mind, but your BMI is normal and is stuck there.
2. When you "binge" on 2,000 calories of cakes/chocolates/cookies while locked in the bathroom only to NOT swallow them but spit each sloppy huge bite into mounds of dixie paper cups you purchase regularly and hide inside sacks, boxes, etc so no one looking in the trash will see.
3. After C/S your throat hurts not from B/P but B/coughing up mucus/food that's slid down from C/S.
4. Restrict and restrict until you BINGE w/o P all day Sunday b/c you know your body has to be tricked it's not starving.
5. People telling you they see your bones but your BMI is twenty-fucking-three and you just don't see how the bones sticking out warrants a BMI of 23.
6. Hating yourself when you have a 'snack' after work of 3 wheat saltines to avoid fainting after your hour cardio workout and feel you failed.
7. Not able to NOT eat dinner, but not able to purge after. Feel, then, like you can't do a damn thing right.
8. Telling your therapist (finally) you C/S and they say......oh, uh huh...... hum...... and ask anorexic questions which some answers are yes and some answer are no.
You know you are EDNOS is exactly me except that I am 100 lbs overweight. I binge & Purge everyday and have done so for 15 years. I went from 270 to 123 in 5 months and kept it off for 2 years then had Hernia surgery and the weight started to come back on. I need to loose at least 100 LBS BUT I don't have the will power to be on a regular slow diet. I can't stand looking at all this fat. I can literally pick up my belly fat with both hands. I wish I could just cut that part off.
ReplyDeleteWow, that is quite a drastic change to undergo in 5 months - you say you don't have the will power to be on a regular diet, and I say you have INCREDIBLE will power to have sustained that loss for as long as you did! I completely understand where you are coming from - I can't stand looking at my body, and I can't tell you how much time I've spent wishing I could just slice off my belly or my saddlebags. Have you been able to be active since your surgery? I hope that you've recovered from that, healing from surgery should be your priority before contemplating any strenuous activity of course. But in all honesty, reading your comment, I get it. I totally get it. Stay strong! xoxo
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